Get Out Of Your Own Way

by Rik Arron on June 06, 2019

Starting a business isn't easy. Anybody who tells you it is, they're lying.

That's not to say it can't be fun and it isn't tremendously creative and rewarding too but it isn't easy.

You will make mistakes. That's alright though. You learn that way.

If you have the guts to keep making mistakes, your wisdom and intelligence leap forward with huge momentum. - Holly Near

Hindsight will provide you with insights that you cannot believe you couldn't see at the time.The problem is that 'in the moment' your perspective is skewed and distorted by the thousand other decisions you have to make, so it is almost impossible to make the right decision everytime. Again that's okay. Time will teach you to try and slow down and attempt to anticipate problems in advance - foresight or even insight. You'll still get it wrong from time to time though.

The most important thing though is progress. As long as you are making progress and moving closer to your goals and your vision then nothing is wasted. Everything, good or bad, is an experience. That experience when used to shape future decisions makes them worthwhile.  

The main obstacles therefore are not about making mistakes but rather perhaps our expectations regarding what constitutes progress.

Lower your standards for what counts as progress and you will be less paralysed. - Adam Grant

So in many ways we are our own worst enemies. Our expectations can actually hold us back. Having a vision to uphold is one thing, imprisoning ourselves through our own rules and expectations is another.

You see there is a mystical aspect to anything we create. Whether we believe it or not.

Artists, musicians and writers are some of the most superstitious people you will ever meet. They understand that their inspiration is very much out of their control, and even though they can create the space, the rituals and even build the confidence of a creative habit - the muse and inspiration comes from somewhere else. Artists learn to listen to the world around them - many of them understand that somehow and in someway the Universe provides them with exactly what they need when they need it. Whether that be the serendipitous introduction of the right collaborator, the light shining in a unique way or the whispers of an overheard conversation - the answers are outside and yet inside at the same time.

It's the same with creating a business. There is a mystical element to it that you cannot afford to ignore, not if you want to enjoy the journey you are on anyway. You have to listen and look. What is the situation in front of you showing you? What lesson are you being taught? When you slow down enough to understand why things aren't working out as you expected, then you can obtain a clarity and perspective that escapes you in the hustle and busyness of business.

I guess essentially what I'm saying is that is vital at times to put aside the doubts, worries, concerns, expectations and blocks and just stop, and listen.

The answers are there. They are just waiting for us to. We need to get out of our own way in order to find our way.



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